is my guidance counselor allowed to do this without me knowing?
yupie h asked:
Okay so, Im in High School and I told my Guidance counselor about my mom having cancer. I told her not to tell anyone but recently all my teachers have been coming up to me asking how I am and pitying me. I told my counselor not to say anything but she still did and shes invading my privacy.I feel like they are gossiping about me its annoying. Now shes wants me to see a clinical therapist at the school and I already told her I dont want to because I have too much work that I do in my free time..
whats going on, do I have any rights and Is this okay?
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6 Responses to “is my guidance counselor allowed to do this without me knowing?”
you should tell the princible or a member of your school distrcit board
also iof they dont do anything go up to your counselor and b#$ch slap her
no there not allowed to do that…whats said in the room stays in the room, u should tell ur principal or something. thats a violation of privacy..
Hon, I don’t think they are pitying you, it is more being sympathetic, or empathetic. I know that it is anoying, but it should also be comforting to know that there is someone there for you. You are right about your G.C. not saying anything after you asked her not to, but it is her job, to help students cope with things like this. It really is o.k. not to be a tuff guy all the time! I am the tuff guy in my family, and it has been a hard learned lesson for me, not to be all the time. I lost my mom when I was 44. Take some advice and go see the therapist, it wont take more than 1 hour out of your day, and it will be good to have someone to talk to. Really!
My councillor did the same thing to me, only over a different topic. They can NOT do it. There’s only two reasons they are legally allowed to share it, if they think you’re going to harm another or if they think you’re going to harm yourself.
Dob her in, tell someone! Don’t continue to talk to her and if she continues to try and tell you to see a clinical therapist (which in itself wouldn’t have been such a bad suggestion if she hadn’t BLABBED) tell her that you are unable to trust her. But don’t have too much contact with her if you’re going to dob her in, let them deal with her.
It could have been a mistake, a slip, but it’s still a very bad thing she did. And I agree that she should face the consequences. I never had the guts to stand up to the councillor that betrayed my own trust, but I did stop talking to her. I wish I’d said something (it was about five years ago) as she continued to work.
Long response, I apologize.
Most likely her motives were not to hurt you but to help you, and perhaps she went about it the wrong way. The most likely reason that your counselor may have told the others teachers is simply to let them know what’s going on in case they notice a change in grades or in behavior (and help you if need be) Another possibilty is that she might not have said anything at all, perhaps the teachers got the information from others students.
In either case, you have the right to go talk to her about how you feel. I would only go to a principal or higher up, if you feel this problem has not been resolved. You also have the right to not talk to her again, if you feel your trust has been violated. You also have to right to not attend or attend counseling.
I also want to assure that most teachers do not ‘gossip’ about things like that, and they are merely expressing concern about you because they care about you. If you don’t feel comfortable discussing this with your teachers, just let them know, and maybe mention that you want this to be kept private. Your teachers will understand and respect your wishes.
P.S. I wish the best for you, your mother and the rest of your family during this difficult time.
NO Its a violation of privacy.Dont be tough go and see a therapist to talk about your feelings.Teachers were acting out of kindness. Cancer is a tough isssue to deal with.